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Closing the Teach For America Blogging Gap
Sep 03 2012

three weeks in

and the bags under my eyes are UNREAL. I ran out of contacts so I’ve been wearing glasses every day, and that’s great because the shadows from the frames hide the bags and make it look like I might, you know, be a trustworthy person who’s competent enough to teach some kids. I just got new contacts and my new goal is to eradicate under-eye circles. Hopefully the holiday weekend will help, but ten-hour workdays (when I’m really on top of everything – otherwise they’re longer) are starting to take their toll.

The first two weeks of kindergarten were relatively smooth. We have one kid who pulls frequent temper tantrums (“take your finger out of your mouth and go put hand sanitzer on.” “I WANT MY MOMMY”) and one kid who was literally hanging onto his mom’s ankles outside the school building, but mostly the kids were bright-eyed and bushy-tailed and in awe of the concept of school. They followed directions and did what they were supposed to.

Then the shock wore off in the third week. They also started to make friends with each other, which means that now all they do is talktalktalk and life is infinitely more difficult. They’re more comfortable with us, which means that they feel like they can talk out or run in the hallway.

My co-teacher was gone for the day last Friday, and for the second half of the day on Thursday, and having the class to myself was an interesting experience. I definitely need to work on, essentially, inspiring the fear of God in these children – they don’t fear me the same way that they fear my co-teacher, and I think it’s because she’s the one who leads most of the transitions and gives the stern talking-to’s when they’re out of line. I’m getting better at delivering instruction, and it’s nice that I can focus on that for right now, but I’m going to take over as the lead teacher in the classroom when she goes on maternity leave and at this point I’m a little worried about how that’s going to go down.

 

One student came in on Monday and said “my mom’s getting married so I can’t come to school!” and I asked her when that was happening and she said “in two years!” I talked to the mom later that day and apparently the wedding was on Thursday – substantially less than two years from Monday.

I had a bad cold early this week and I was coughing while I was teaching. One kid said “you make me sick!” and I was ready to give him a hell of a talking to about respect when he said “my dad’s in the hospital and I’m worried about germs.” Oh.

In math meeting one student told me that “one thing I know about clouds is that they poop snow.”

I love these kids, and sometimes I want to yell at them and leave and go cry but mostly I love them a whole hell of a lot.

6 Responses

  1. G

    I ditched the prizes for my 2nd graders at the beginning of my 2nd year. They could only buy pencils and erasers with their tickets. They could also buy things like choosing their class job, computer time, first in the lunch line, etc. It worked really well (plus, I didn’t go broke buying silly toys). This year, I have 25 5th graders (so far – I’m expecting more by the end of the 9 weeks). Their reward for a week of good behavior is free time on Friday. I’ve been using techniques from a book called Setting Limits in the Classroom, and it works well.

    That being said, consistency and confidence is key. Don’t be afraid that the children won’t “like” you. They need structure and consistency (especially little ones like kindergartners). Don’t be afraid to lay down the law in a firm, but positive tone. They’ll get the message…hang in there!

  2. Joan

    I have second graders, and when we have to walk in the hall we play the “who’s perfect?” game. Essentially, I choose a student who looks “perfect” (we spend a lot of time at the beginning of the year discussing perfect hall behavior) and then that student gets to choose the next perfect kid, and so forth. There’s a lot of positive peer pressure, and they really love playing it. We play it while at the bathrooms (the ones waiting outside play) and often kids will hurry in the bathroom just to get back to the game (of course, that leads to “are you sure you went? did you wash your hands?”) but they want to continue standing quietly and keeping their hands to themselves for no other prize than being picked and getting to pick the next student.
    Of course issues do sometimes come up, “I pick me!” and more commonly “I am A and I pick my best friend, B” “I am B and I pick my best friend A” but that’s why you are there to referee. Also, we talk about how to play the game throughout the year. We even have an anchor chart about how to play.
    I will warn that my first year I did tangible prizes all the time (a very similar system to yours, in fact), and when I tried to take them away and just do praise and once in a while a sticker or a piece of candy, it was madness. The kids were used to the prizes and now didn’t care about anything else. However, every group is different and you’ve only had yours a couple weeks so if you want to try something like this I’d say go for it. Just maybe make up a story about the prizes disappearing so that if you have to bring them back you can.

    • egadz

      I’ve been struggling with the fact that the behavior management system at my school inherently provides a lot more negative than positive reinforcement – we actually don’t have many instantaneous rewards outside of the occasional sticker, so I really like this and plan on stealing it (subject to my co-teacher’s approval). Thank you so much for such a thoughtful response!

  3. meghank

    Your administration sounds like mine, and like they might really care about “hallway behavior.” I give them fake coins for being quiet in the hallway. That’s all I ever give them coins for. Any other token would work, too. I have a treasure chest that they can buy things from at the end of the week, but I get the feeling it’s just the act of getting the coins that they really like. It’s unnatural, in my opinion, for five-year-olds to be quiet and still and walk in perfectly straight lines in the hallway, and I think they deserve some sort of tangible reward for trying so hard to do something so strange.

    It seems like a really tough position to be a co-teacher who will have to take over the class full-time later on in the year. I think you should be completely in charge of some portion of time every day, the way a student teacher is, and in charge of the transitions and the talking-to’s during that time as well.

    I’m just curious, how many students do you have?

    • egadz

      I have 30 kids, and my administration DEFINITELY cares about hallway behavior… and sitting in your seat behavior, and staying silent during lunch, and transitioning from seats to carpet, and pretty much everything else. Their driving philosophy is “sweat the small stuff” and the implementation seems so inconsistent with the cognitive development of a five-year-old. Everyone in the administration has been a kindergarten teacher before and I haven’t, so I’m trying to learn as much as I can, but I agree with you that it seems a little unnatural.

    • meghank

      I don’t know why principals care so much about perfectly silent hallways. I’ve been to schools where there is not a lot of emphasis on perfectly silent hallways, and those schools are much better and seem much more like schools and less like prisons to me. I’m sure the teachers also have much more energy to teach, since they don’t have to expend so much energy on perfect hallway behavior. Having said all that, the coin system worked perfectly for me all year and I see no reason not to use it all year (strictly for hallway behavior, because it’s true that you don’t want to train kids to work strictly for tangible rewards when there should be some other motivation. Perfectly silent hallway behavior is just so ridiculous that there can’t be any other motivation for young kid).

      I also use the compliment system. Whenever a teacher commented on my class’s line in the hallway, saying that they looked good or were quiet, I wrote a letter on the board. When I had spelled out the word LUCKY three times, we had a class party. (Also, when the principal complimented us, that was worth two letters.) These two systems combined worked perfectly (for a class of 16 students) last year.

      It’s also unreasonable to make children be silent during lunch. It’s like that at my school, too. Exactly when are they supposed to talk, which is a perfectly normal thing to do? It only causes them to talk when you’re teaching, because there is a human need to socialize.

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